Chivary in love has nothing to do with the sweetness of appearance. It has everything to do with the tenderness of a heart willing to serve. That is the first hard lesson to learn. You do not act under the impetus of charm but out of a commitment to make someone's life the joy you want it to be. In the early days of marriage, joy precedes the act. Tragically as the years go by joy can be severed from the act until finally, the act itself is no more. This ought not to be. Over time it is the companionship that brings joy, and service is the natural outworking of the joy of commitment. Failure to act kills it.
Love is as much a question of the will as it is of the emotion.
Faltering, with bowed heads, our altered parents Slowly descended from their holy hill, All their good fortune left behind and done with, Out through the one-way pass
Into the dangerous world, these strange countries. No rumour in Eden had reached the human pair Of things not men, yet half like men, that wandered The earth beyond its walls;
But now they heard the mountains stirred and shaken, All the heap'd crags re-echoing, the deep tarns And caverns shuddering and the abysmal gorges With dismal drums of Dwarfs;
Or, some prodigious night, waked by a thumping Shock as of piles being driven two miles away, Ran till the sunrise shone upon the bouncing Monopods at their heels;
Or held their breath, hiding, and saw their elders, The race of giants-the bulldozer's pace, Heads like balloons, toad-thick, ungainly torsos- Dotting the plain like ricks . . . .
Memory, not built upon a fake from Piltdown, Reaches us. We know more than bones can teach ....
Before we're born we have heard it. Long-silenced ogres boom, voices like gongs Reverberate in the mind, a Dwarf-drum rolls, Trolls wind unchancy horns.
If God had a name, what would it be? And would you call it to His face? If you were faced with Him in all His glory, What would you ask if you had just one question?
If God had a face what would it look like? And would you want to see? If seeing meant that you would have to believe In things like heaven and in Jesus and the saints and all the prophets?
What if God was one of us? Just a slob like one of us? Just a stranger on the bus Trying to make his way home?